So, here’s the thing, I’m a firm believer in you do what you want. I’m not here to tell you how to live your life, I would just like to share my experiences and hopefully bestow some wisdom and insight upon you.
I’d like to start by making a few points, I will be writing this from a heterosexual female’s point of view. Also, when I use the term “nudie” I mean a nude photo, and by nude photo I don’t mean specifically photos of you or someone else naked, while that is included I also mean suggestive photos or anything you wouldn’t feel comfortable showing your mom, dad or a judge.
If she (or you; if you are the “she”) is under 18 it is considered CHILD PORNOGRAPHY.
(This also applies for “he”s that are under 18.)
I will be honest from the get-go. I was sending nude photos well before my 18th birthday. It’s disgusting thinking back on it. And I regret it. Here’s why…
I was just a girl on his roster, no doubt. This boy was probably saying “I love you”, and “I miss you” to anyone who would give him the time of day. And even more regrettably, I know I’m better than that, and had I had a shred of self-respect and self-worth I wouldn’t have sent those photos. Another thing about sending nudies is, once they’re out there; they’re out there. You can ask the person receiving and fantasising about your photos to delete them, but let’s be real; they probably won’t. Knowing they have you wrapped around their finger plus the photos is enough to give any creep a hard-on and now you know what he’s looking at and thinking about all day. That’s gross.
But it gets worse. He’s going to show his friends, and I know this because I had a good friend of mine tell me her (now)husband saw my photo through a grape-vine of people. I have no idea how many people saw that photo, and honestly at this point I don’t want to know.
“So what? It’s on snapchat; he can only see the photo for a couple of seconds anyway”. Well that’s fine and dandy if you think of yourself as nothing more than someone else’s 10 second adrenaline rush. I know you’re better than that.
Now if you’re the kind of girl who doesn’t care if her nudies get out and enjoys the attention then this blog is clearly not for you. But if you’re a 14-year-old girl who was asked for the first time to show off your tits, please think twice about locking your door, lifting your shirt and snapping that photo; you’re worth more than that.