Phones are a large part of our lives, let’s just be honest and admit it to ourselves, we really can’t do much without them. They store our phone numbers, keep us in contact with family and friends whether that’s through Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. Phones make everything convenient and that’s okay. My only complaint is this, put the thing away when you’re on a date, it fits snugly in your pocket; leave it there.
We have become so connected with people from miles away, from all around the world that we often forget to connect with the person sitting across the booth table from us. I’m guilty of it too, but I have been really trying to make a point to put my phone away when Jake and I are on a date, or if we are visiting our parents.
Here’s the thing… we are losing intimacy. That’s the long and short of it. Jake and I have been married for six months now (at the time of me writing this) and after a long day at work we both go home, turn on the TV and brain numbingly scroll through our phones. Now maybe Jake and I are the only couple who does that, in which care he and I really need some marriage counselling; but I don’t think that’s the situation.
What am I learning about my husband when I’m busying myself with other people’s lives? Nothing. How am I learning to love my husband more when the only words we speak to one another are, “Hey, look at this funny video”. Again, nothing; except for maybe that he finds other people’s tragic mishaps funny.
So now that we’ve acknowledged the problem, what are some possible solutions? Simple. Unplug. Jake and I have decided to take a week off all screens; TV, phones, iPads; all of it. It’s time we start connecting to the people around us again. Not only that, start becoming people again, people outside of the opinions we share behind a computer screen. It’s time to make dinner together or go for a walk. It’s time to plan a weekend away or take the kids somewhere (we don’t have kids, but if you do; that’s an idea). Don’t even get me started on use of technology in front of children, that’s an entirely different blog.
I encourage everyone to try an Unplug week. I’m excited to spend a week learning about Jake, playing card games or board games. We’ve started going for walks more often, I’ve found the time we spend together a nice change from the quick paced world we live in. I’m hoping the activities we do during our Unplug week will bleed more into our every day lives. I get to spend the rest of my life with this man, why spend it on the receiving end of someone else’s onscreen life?